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<\/em>portant; float: none;”>\u4f60\u662f\u5426\u89c9\u5f97\u5f88\u96be\u5bf9\u4ed6\u4eba\u63d0\u51fa\u7684\u8981\u6c42\u8bf4“\u4e0d”\uff1f\u4f60\u662f\u4e0d\u662f\u7ecf\u5e38\u4e3a\u4e86\u5bf9\u522b\u4ebanice\u800c\u727a\u7272\u4e86\u81ea\u5df1\uff1f\u653e\u5fc3\u5427\uff0c\u4f60\u4e0d\u662f\u4e00\u4e2a\u4eba\uff01<\/span>

<\/em>portant; float: none;”>\u5f88\u591a\u4eba\u90fd\u4e0d\u64c5\u957f\u62d2\u7edd\uff0c\u56e0\u4e3a\u6015\u4f24\u5bb3\u5bf9\u65b9\u7684\u611f\u60c5\u3002\u81ea\u5df1\u660e\u660e\u6709\u5f88\u591a\u4efb\u52a1\u5728\u8eab\uff0c\u53ef\u662f\u5f53\u522b\u4eba\u8bf7\u6c42\u5e2e\u52a9\u65f6\u8fd8\u662f\u7b54\u5e94\u4e86\uff0c\u6700\u540e\u4e0d\u5f97\u4e0d\u727a\u7272\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u7761\u89c9\u65f6\u95f4\u3002\u4e8b\u5b9e\u4e0a\uff0c\u5982\u6b64\u52c9\u5f3a\u5bf9\u81ea\u5df1\u6ca1\u6709\u597d\u5904\uff0c\u5728\u5fc5\u8981\u7684\u65f6\u5019\uff0c\u6211\u4eec\u5e94\u8be5\u5b66\u4f1a\u8bf4“\u4e0d”\uff01\u5982\u679c\u4f60\u4e0d\u77e5\u9053\u8be5\u600e\u4e48\u505a\uff0c\u90a3\u4e48\u8fd9\u91cc\u6559\u7ed9\u4f60\u4e03\u79cd\u7b80\u5355\u7684\u65b9\u5f0f\uff0c\u8981\u6839\u636e\u573a\u5408\u8fd0\u7528\u54e6~<\/span>

1. "I can’t commit to this as I have other priorities at the moment."
1. “\u73b0\u5728\u6211\u8fd8\u6709\u5176\u4ed6\u91cd\u8981\u4e8b\u60c5\uff0c\u4e0d\u80fd\u82b1\u65f6\u95f4\u5728\u8fd9\u4e8b\u4e0a\u3002”
<\/strong><\/em>portant; float: none;”>If you are too busy to engage in the request\/offer, this will be applicable. This lets the person know your plate is full at the moment, so he\/she should hold off on this as well as future requests. You can also share what you’re working on so the person can understand better. <\/span><\/span>
<\/em>portant; float: none;”>\u5982\u679c\u4f60\u56e0\u4e3a\u592a\u5fd9\u800c\u65e0\u6cd5\u63a5\u53d7\u5bf9\u65b9\u7684\u8bf7\u6c42\uff0c\u8fd9\u53e5\u8bdd\u5c31\u53ef\u4ee5\u7528\u4e0a\u4e86\u3002\u5b83\u80fd\u8ba9\u5bf9\u65b9\u77e5\u9053\u4f60\u6b64\u523b\u8fd8\u6709\u5f88\u591a\u4e8b\u8981\u505a\uff0c\u4ed6\/\u5979\u5e94\u8be5\u653e\u5f03\u8fd9\u6b21\u6c42\u52a9\uff0c\u5e76\u4e14\u5728\u63a5\u4e0b\u6765\u7684\u8fd9\u6bb5\u65f6\u95f4\u4e5f\u4e0d\u518d\u6765\u6253\u6270\u3002\u4f60\u8fd8\u53ef\u4ee5\u544a\u8bc9\u5bf9\u65b9\u81ea\u5df1\u6b63\u5728\u505a\u4ec0\u4e48\uff0c\u90a3\u6837\u4ed6\/\u5979\u80fd\u66f4\u597d\u5730\u7406\u89e3\u3002\uff08*have a full plate \u5728\u6709\u9650\u7684\u65f6\u95f4\u91cc\u6709\u597d\u591a\u4e8b\u60c5\u8981\u505a\uff09<\/span>

2. "Now’s not a good time as I’m in the middle of something. How a<\/em>bout we reco<\/em>nnect at X time?"
2. “\u73b0\u5728\u771f\u4e0d\u662f\u4e2a\u597d\u65f6\u95f4\uff0c\u6211\u6b63\u5fd9\u7740\u5462\u3002\u8981\u4e0d\u6211\u4eecX\u70b9\u518d\u8054\u7cfb\u5427\uff1f”
<\/strong><\/em>portant; float: none;”>It’s common to get sudden requests for help when you are in the middle of something. This method is a great way to (temporarily) hold off the request. First, you let the person know it’s not a good time as you are doing something. Secondly, you make known your desire to help by suggesting another time (at your convenience). This way, the person doesn’t feel blown off.<\/span>
<\/em>portant; float: none;”>\u6211\u4eec\u7ecf\u5e38\u5728\u5f88\u5fd9\u788c\u7684\u65f6\u5019\u63a5\u5230\u7a81\u5982\u5176\u6765\u7684\u6c42\u52a9\uff0c\u90a3\u4e48\u8fd9\u53e5\u8bdd\u5c31\u53ef\u4ee5\u8d77\u5230\u5f88\u597d\u7684\u6682\u65f6\u6027\u63a8\u8f9e\u7684\u4f5c\u7528\u3002\u9996\u5148\uff0c\u4f60\u8ba9\u5bf9\u65b9\u77e5\u9053\u73b0\u5728\u4f60\u6b63\u5fd9\uff0c\u65f6\u95f4\u4e0d\u5408\u9002\uff1b\u5176\u6b21\uff0c\u901a\u8fc7\u63d0\u51fa\u518d\u6b21\u8054\u7cfb\u7684\u65f6\u95f4\u8ba9\u5bf9\u65b9\u77e5\u9053\u4f60\u662f\u60f3\u5e2e\u5fd9\u7684\uff0c\u8fd9\u6837\u522b\u4eba\u624d\u4e0d\u4f1a\u611f\u89c9\u88ab\u51b7\u843d\u4e86\u3002\uff08*blow sb. off \u7a81\u7136\u5bf9\u67d0\u4eba\u5f88\u51b7\u6de1\uff09<\/span>

3. "I’d love to do this, but …"
3. “\u6211\u662f\u613f\u610f\u505a\u8fd9\u4e8b\uff0c\u4f46\u662f……”
<\/strong><\/em>portant; float: none;”>It’s a gentle way of breaking no to the other party. It’s encouraging as it lets the person know you like the idea (of course, o<\/em>nly say this if you do like it) and there’s nothing wrong a<\/em>bout it.<\/span>
<\/em>portant; float: none;”>\u8fd9\u662f\u4e00\u79cd\u59d4\u5a49\u62d2\u7edd\u4ed6\u4eba\u7684\u65b9\u5f0f\u3002\u8fd9\u53e5\u8bdd\u6bd4\u8f83\u9f13\u821e\u4eba\u5fc3\uff0c\u56e0\u4e3a\u5b83\u8ba9\u5bf9\u65b9\u77e5\u9053\u4f60\u613f\u610f\u505a\u8fd9\u4e8b\uff08\u5f53\u7136\uff0c\u53ea\u6709\u5f53\u4f60\u771f\u7684\u613f\u610f\u7684\u65f6\u5019\u624d\u8bf7\u8fd9\u6837\u8bf4\uff09\uff0c\u5e76\u4e14\u4ed6\/\u5979\u7684\u8bf7\u6c42\u672c\u8eab\u6ca1\u6709\u4ec0\u4e48\u4e0d\u5bf9\u3002<\/span>

4. "Let me think a<\/em>bout it first and I’ll get back to you."
4. “\u8ba9\u6211\u5148\u60f3\u4e00\u60f3\u5427\uff0c\u4e4b\u540e\u518d\u7ed9\u4f60\u7b54\u590d\u3002”
<\/strong><\/em>portant; float: none;”>This is more like a "Maybe" than a straight out "No". If you are interested but you don’t want to say ‘yes’ just yet, use this. If the person is sincere a<\/em>bout the request, he\/she will be more than happy to wait a short while. Specify a date \/ time-range (say, in 1-2 weeks) wher the person can expect a reply.<\/span>
<\/em>portant; float: none;”>\u8fd9\u53e5\u8bdd\u66f4\u50cf\u662f\u8868\u793a\u4e00\u79cd\u53ef\u80fd\uff0c\u800c\u975e\u76f4\u622a\u4e86\u5f53\u5730\u8bf4“\u4e0d”\u3002\u5982\u679c\u4f60\u5bf9\u5bf9\u65b9\u6240\u63d0\u51fa\u7684\u4e8b\u60c5\u6709\u5174\u8da3\uff0c\u4f46\u53c8\u4e0d\u60f3\u9a6c\u4e0a\u7b54\u5e94\uff0c\u90a3\u5c31\u7528\u8fd9\u53e5\u8bdd\u5427\u3002\u5982\u679c\u5bf9\u65b9\u7684\u8bf7\u6c42\u662f\u771f\u8bda\u7684\uff0c\u90a3\u4e48\u4ed6\/\u5979\u53cd\u800c\u66f4\u613f\u610f\u7b49\u4e0a\u4e00\u5c0f\u4f1a\u513f\u3002\u8bb0\u5f97\u544a\u8bc9\u5bf9\u65b9\u4e00\u4e2a\u660e\u786e\u7684\u65e5\u671f\u6216\u65f6\u95f4\u8303\u56f4\uff08\u6bd4\u5982\uff0c\u4e00\u5230\u4e24\u5468\uff09\uff0c\u8ba9\u522b\u4eba\u77e5\u9053\u4f55\u65f6\u80fd\u6536\u5230\u7b54\u590d\u3002<\/span>

5. "This doesn’t meet my needs now but I’ll be sure to keep you in mind."
5. “\u8fd9\u4e8b\u76ee\u524d\u4e0d\u5408\u6211\u7684\u9700\u6c42\uff0c\u4f46\u6211\u4f1a\u8bb0\u5728\u5fc3\u91cc\u7684\u3002”
<\/strong><\/em>portant; float: none;”>If someone is pitching a deal\/opportunity which isn’t what you are looking for, let him\/her know straight-out that it doesn’t meet your needs. Otherwise, the discussion can drag on lo<\/em>nger than it should. It helps as the person know it’s nothing wrong a<\/em>bout what he\/she is offering, but that you are looking for something else. At the same time, by saying you’ll keep him\/her in mind, it signals you are open to future opportunities.<\/span>
<\/em>portant; float: none;”>\u5982\u679c\u6709\u4eba\u5411\u4f60\u63d0\u51fa\u4e00\u9879\u4ea4\u6613\u6216\u662f\u4e00\u6b21\u673a\u9047\uff0c\u800c\u5b83\u5e76\u4e0d\u662f\u4f60\u6240\u60f3\u8981\u7684\uff0c\u90a3\u4e48\u5c31\u5766\u767d\u5730\u544a\u8bc9\u4ed6\/\u5979\u8fd9\u4e0d\u5408\u4f60\u7684\u9700\u6c42\uff0c\u5426\u5219\u8fd9\u6b21\u7684\u8c08\u8bdd\u5c06\u88ab\u62d6\u5ef6\u4e0b\u53bb\u3002\u8fd9\u53e5\u8bdd\u80fd\u8ba9\u5bf9\u65b9\u77e5\u9053\u4ed6\/\u5979\u63d0\u51fa\u7684\u4e8b\u60c5\u5e76\u6ca1\u6709\u95ee\u9898\uff0c\u53ea\u662f\u4e0d\u662f\u4f60\u6240\u9700\u8981\u7684\u3002\u540c\u65f6\u544a\u8bc9\u5bf9\u65b9\u4f60\u4f1a\u8bb0\u4f4f\u6b64\u4e8b\uff0c\u90a3\u5c31\u8868\u660e\u5982\u679c\u4ee5\u540e\u6709\u5408\u9002\u7684\u673a\u4f1a\u4f60\u8fd8\u613f\u610f\u63a5\u53d7\u3002<\/span>

6. "I’m not the best person to help on this. Why don’t you try X?"
6. “\u6211\u4e0d\u662f\u5e2e\u5fd9\u505a\u8fd9\u4e8b\u7684\u6700\u4f73\u4eba\u9009\uff0c\u4f55\u4e0d\u627e\u67d0\u67d0\u4eba\u8bd5\u8bd5\u5462\uff1f”
<\/strong><\/em>portant; float: none;”>If you are being asked for help in something which you (i) can’t co<\/em>ntribute much to (ii) don’t have resources to help, let it be known they are looking at the wrong person. If possible, refer them to a lead they can follow-up on – whether it’s someone you know, someone who might know someone else, or even a department.<\/span>
<\/em>portant; float: none;”>\u5982\u679c\u67d0\u4eba\u8bf7\u6c42\u4f60\u5e2e\u5fd9\u7684\u4e8b\u5c5e\u4e8e\u4ee5\u4e0b\u4e24\u79cd\u60c5\u51b5\uff1a1\u3001\u81ea\u5df1\u505a\u4e0d\u4e86\u591a\u5c11\u8d21\u732e\uff1b2\u3001\u6ca1\u6709\u63d0\u4f9b\u5e2e\u52a9\u7684\u8d44\u6e90\uff0c\u90a3\u5c31\u544a\u8bc9\u4ed6\u4eec\u627e\u9519\u5bf9\u8c61\u4e86\u3002\u5982\u679c\u53ef\u80fd\u7684\u8bdd\uff0c\u4e3a\u4ed6\u4eec\u6307\u660e\u4e00\u4e2a\u53ef\u4ee5\u8bf7\u6559\u7684\u5bf9\u8c61——\u8fd9\u4e2a\u5bf9\u8c61\u53ef\u4ee5\u662f\u4f60\u8ba4\u8bc6\u7684\u4eba\uff0c\u53ef\u4ee5\u662f\u8ba4\u8bc6\u5176\u4ed6\u4eba\u7684\u4eba\uff0c\u751a\u81f3\u53ef\u4ee5\u662f\u4e00\u5bb6\u673a\u6784\u3002<\/span>

7. "No, I can’t."
7. “\u4e0d\uff0c\u4e0d\u884c\u3002”
<\/strong><\/em>portant; float: none;”>The simplest and most direct way to say no. We build up too many barriers in our mind to saying no. These barriers are self-created and they are not true at all. Don’t think so much a<\/em>bout saying no and just say it outright. You’ll be surprised when the reception isn’t half as bad as what you imagined it to be.<\/span>
<\/em>portant; float: none;”>\u8fd9\u662f\u6700\u7b80\u5355\u3001\u6700\u76f4\u63a5\u7684\u8bf4“\u4e0d”\u7684\u65b9\u5f0f\u3002\u5f53\u6211\u4eec\u60f3\u8bf4“\u4e0d”\u65f6\uff0c\u603b\u5728\u81ea\u5df1\u5185\u5fc3\u7b51\u8d77\u4e00\u9053\u9053\u969c\u788d\uff0c\u800c\u8fd9\u4e9b\u969c\u788d\u6839\u672c\u662f\u6211\u4eec\u81ea\u627e\u7684\uff0c\u5b83\u4eec\u5e76\u975e\u771f\u7684\u5b58\u5728\u3002\u6240\u4ee5\u8981\u8bf4“\u4e0d”\u7684\u65f6\u5019\u4e0d\u5fc5\u60f3\u592a\u591a\uff0c\u76f4\u63a5\u8bf4\u51fa\u6765\u5c31\u662f\u4e86\u3002\u4f60\u4f1a\u60ca\u8bb6\u5730\u53d1\u73b0\u5bf9\u65b9\u7684\u53cd\u5e94\u8fdc\u6ca1\u6709\u81ea\u5df1\u6240\u60f3\u8c61\u7684\u7cdf\u7cd5\u3002<\/span><\/div>