{"id":18367,"date":"2020-02-24T02:02:02","date_gmt":"2020-02-24T02:02:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chinesemoment.com\/chinese-culture\/chinese-wedding-traditions-engagement\/"},"modified":"2020-02-24T02:02:02","modified_gmt":"2020-02-24T02:02:02","slug":"chinese-wedding-traditions-engagement","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chinesemoment.com\/my\/chinese-wedding-traditions-engagement\/","title":{"rendered":"Chinese Wedding Traditions \u2013 Engagement"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>  \tIn the past, engagements were arranged by parents and matchmakers. The engagement consisted of &#39;six courtesies&#39;. The six courtesies were: a marriage proposal, asking for names, praying for good fortune, sending betrothal gifts, sending invitations, and welcoming the bride.<\/p>\n<p>  \tMatchmaker, Matchmaker, Make Me a Match<\/p>\n<p>  \tIn the past, a family would hire a matchmaker, and the matchmaker would go to another family&rsquo;s home to seek a proposal. Then, both families would consult a fortune teller who analyzed the man and woman&rsquo;s birth dates, times, names and other vital information. If both were deemed compatible, a marriage deal would be brokered. Betrothal gifts would be offered and a wedding planned.<\/p>\n<p>  \tWhile some families may still opt for an arranged marriage or set their children up with other friends&rsquo; children, most Chinese find their own soul mates and decide when to get engaged. The man often presents the woman with a diamond ring. While modern engagements differ from the past, there are still many Chinese engagement traditions including offering betrothal gifts, a bridal dowry, and consultation with a fortune teller.<\/p>\n<p>  \tBetrothal Gifts as a Tradition<\/p>\n<p>  \tOnce a couple decides to get married, the groom&rsquo;s family sends gifts to the bride&rsquo;s family. These include food and cakes. Once the bride&rsquo;s family accepts the gifts, the wedding cannot be called off lightly.<\/p>\n<p>  \tBridal Dowry as a Tradition<\/p>\n<p>  \tThe bridal dowry consists of the gifts that the bride brings to her husband&rsquo;s home after marriage. Once a woman marries, she leaves her home and becomes part of her husband&rsquo;s family. Her principal responsibility is with her husband&rsquo;s family. The value of the dowry used to determine a woman&rsquo;s status in her new household.<\/p>\n<p>  \tA Fortune Teller Consultation<\/p>\n<p>  \tBefore an engagement can be confirmed, both families consult a fortune teller to make sure the couple is compatible. Names, birth dates, birth years, and birth times are analyzed to determine compatibility.<\/p>\n<p>  \tOnce the fortune teller gives the okay, traditionalists will confirm the engagement with &lsquo;three matchmakers and six proofs.&rsquo; The &lsquo;six proofs&rsquo; are an abacus, a measuring vessel, a ruler, a pair of scissors, a set of scales and a mirror.<\/p>\n<div class=\"chine-tie-zi-nei-rong-zhi-hou\" id=\"chine-2714517427\"><script async src=\"\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-1889418300638825\" crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script><ins class=\"adsbygoogle\" style=\"display:block;\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-1889418300638825\" \ndata-ad-slot=\"7273022922\" \ndata-ad-layout-key=\"-gw-3+1f-3d+2z\"\ndata-ad-format=\"fluid\"><\/ins>\n<script> \n(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); \n<\/script>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In the past, engagements were arranged by parents and matchmakers. The engagement consisted of &#39;six courtesies&#39;. 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